There's this guy I've been talking to and for personal reasons I'm not digging him. I believe one of those (not the main reason though at all, he's just clingy) reasons is that he doesn't have a job. He recently got out of the army the BEGINNING of this year and he claims to be "relaxing for now". He was in the service for four years. He states he wants to go back to school; still needs to complete general Ed in college. He's vented that he's gotten in arguments with his father because he doesn't want to support him.
Ok ok point is, is it wrong of me to be annoyed about the job thing? It has nothing to do with him spending anything on me. No, I hold my own job down. I understand everyone does things in their adult life at their own pace. I don't have everything figured out either. It's just disappointing that he's just being sedentary. I wouldn't even care if he had a part time/2 diff p/t odd jobs, minimum wage, etc... Just something!! He just makes it seem like being in the army is such a life accomplishment that'll have him set for life or something... I could go on and on 😑
- You're exaggerating.Vote A
- I agreeVote B
- If I was in your position, it wouldn't bother me but I see your point of view.Vote C
- You're so wrong for that.Vote D
- OtherVote E
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I voted "B", because I completely agree with literally everything you said. And I don't do that much, especially with GAG questions.
To answer your question, I would say it depends on the reason why he didn't have a job, so I would say it may or may not be a "bad" thing to care about his job status. With that being said, in YOUR situation, I see nothing wrong for being bothered by the fact he doesn't have a job.
It would be different if he was laid-off recently, or fired for an unjust reason, or actively looking for a job, but he is just sitting there and not even trying. Many people use the word "relaxing" as a code word for LAZY. He should be actively looking for ANY job, whether it be part-time, minimum age, etc (As you mentioned.) I've been working since I was 15 years old, mind you, juggling high school and college with that (which lead to endless nights of working or doing homework.)
This is an issue I see with many military members. They get this sense of entitlement. They already get a slew of benefits, the G. I. Bill which guarantees money every month, so they feel they can be lazy and not contribute anything more to society. It's pathetic.
But anyway, I am WITH YOU 100 percent on this one!1