I mean what makes u chase after a girl and continue to chase after her after you've had sex with her?
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There is a big gap between sex and a relationship for guys. Some purely want sex and some purely want a relationship while a lot are in between but the gap divides the girls they are looking at. When a girl shows a lot mid rift and acts all sexy she's scaring off the chance of a real relationship and finding all the perverts and putting her self on the sex side of the gap for the guys who are also looking for a relationship and maybe sex.
You could go the friends with benefits route which would make the guys "want more" long as you do or you could actually ask guys you're interested in if they are looking for a "fifty shades of grey" scenario (never read the book or saw the movie but I've heard a lot about it) where you're trying for a relationship with sex on the side.
Sorry to tell you this but to guys it doesn't matter how in control you feel, even if you just tease but don't really give sex, you're on the sex side of the canyon. The relationship side on the other hand would be looking for kind girls the one who jumps on your back and gives a surprise hug when they see you. It's not impossible to carry on a relationship and have sex with a guy but most of the time you're on one side or the other.
Sorry for the long response but when I saw the "after you've had sex with her" part I figured I'd explain there's not much middle ground in that territory.0