It's getting ridiculous. I've been actively dating for years but have seemed to fail miserably and making anything long term ever since my LTR ended in high school, years ago. I really think it's bad luck at this point. I usually always get a kiss at the end (most of the time the girl initiates), and sometimes I've even had sex on the first or second date. I'd assume that would mean physical attraction isn't an issue, but that's as far as it ever goes. Most of them tend to just disappear without a trace. The few that haven't (who I still talk to as friends) aren't much help. Sometimes it's just that there was another guy, or that there was no spark or they didn't see a future. A couple have said they thought I was a player because I was way too "smooth" and "comfortable" on the first date, but after so many "first dates" I feel like that's inevitable.
I always get "you're young" or "you're looking for the wrong girls," both of which just annoy me. Plenty of people are in relationships at my age, hell most of my friends have kids and are married! As for the second part, I don't even know how to go about that. I don't limit myself to a particular type physically or personality wise, and I've tried plenty of different places (online dating, bar, grocery store, book store...).
I guess this is more of a rant, but it's getting exhausting to continuously put in effort to get to know someone, and have it go to crap in an instant. Frankly, it's also getting very lonely. All of my friends think I'm some sort of man whore because I'm always with another girl, but I honestly wish that wasn't the case. I just don't even know anymore. I don't know what to ask or what to do. My dad jokes around that, at first he thought it was just circumstantial, buy now he's convinced it's a curse. One notable moment was when a girl ended up spending the night, and spent the entire weekend at my house interacting with my family. She then just up and vanished after that, surprise!
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Hey, it's great your dating and as frustrating and exhausting as it maybe... you have plenty of TIME!!!
I know you hate hearing that but just know that there are so many couples out there stuck and cannot get out of their relationship. It's easy to get into one, it's very draining and emotional to get out.
Best way to spend your single days is to work on you and knock down goals you have set out for yourself. When you get into a relationship.. your efficiency as far as goals will diminish.
Don't doubt yourself, you're getting dates and you articulate yourself well. Just be who you are and if they don't like it, Great! Move on!
It also sounds like to me you need a break from the dating, sometimes when you look too hard you start to make up excuses to call her rather than actually wanting to. Maybe the women your dating are picking up on this that you just want a girlfriend and not her (i'm just speculating).
Either way, just know there are many many guys here who wish they had your issues of dates not working out vs getting 0 dates. Grass is always greener!0