So part of my personality, and I didn't realize I was doing this untill I learned this about myself, I filter out girls very rapidly and only leave myself options that I think will go somewhere. I believe I'm meant for greatness so it's sort of in my personality to hold high standards in a lot of what I do. I want to ask, are there any other intjs that have this problem? Any solutions other than waiting?
How does an INTJ speed up the dating process?
What Girls Said 5
I'm an ISFJ, so obviously we're not the same type but I guess maybe I can give you some advice.
You do say you have high standards which is in keeping with an INTJ personality, so maybe try lowering them a little. Your girl doesn't need to be perfect and no relationship ever will be either, so you should be more flexible and more willing to accommodate imperfection. A good thing to do is make a list. Five absolute deal breakers. You can skip girls based on these conditions and they should be the most important things for you (e. g. wanting kids, wanting to get married) and you should stick to these things. If these are the only things you allow yourself to reject girls on, then you might find yourself opening up your dating pool and finding more partners.
INTJs typically keep a lot of their emotions internalised, so definitely try to be warmer and open up more to the girls you manage to date. As you're an introvert, you're more likely to meet people you enjoy being around through shared hobbies, so maybe even try online dating where you can match your profile to theirs, rather than trying to meet someone in person.1
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The only other solution than waiting is to settle. I am an INTJ myself, so I understand your struggle. I refuse to settle.0
no other solutions.0
What Guys Said 3
Lol, shit I do this too. My standards are so high they can only be seen from mount everest.
My only solution would be to pursue girls that meet your standards.0
Nice I got INFP. I too hold myself with high standards although I can slip sometimes and lower them depending on how desperate I am0
This shit isn't rocket science, get your ass out the door and talk to women. Problem solved.1
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