my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have not had any communication for at least 3 weeks now, no phone calls or texts, which has been very unusual.
when we last hung out and talked it was great or at least I thought it was. I called him at least 3 weeks ago. he didn't answer and I left him a voice mail to call me back and nothing.
Today, he calls me but I let it go to voice mail. he left a message saying that we need to talk.
I'm pretty sure that he wants to break up with me since he called and said "we need to talk"
should I call him back after all this time with him not calling me?
how should I handle this situation?
him not calling me back is very rude and childish on his part.
any advise would help.
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My first reaction was "OUCH!" you are right, he is being very childish and rude, by not talking to you for three weeks then dropping the "We need to talk" bomb. Especially after all the time you spent together and since there were no apparent problems when you last saw each other!
If he wants to end communication, let him. Dump his sorry butt, and move on pronto! You deserve a much better guy!
The last time a guy did that to me, I went out and bought a smoking hot dress, which I dubbed the "everything he'll never ever have" dress, and showed him everything he ain't getting anymore. I suggest you do the same. Go out, get a makeover, go to the spa, and when he finally gets the balls to face you in person, you will look and more importantly FEEL like a million bucks. Do some finger snapping and demand RESPECT! the both of you put way too much effort into that relationship, for him to end it so abruptly and rudely. He needs a swift kick in the butt and to see you walk away from him forever, with all the dignity and respect you deserve!
In essence, take control of the situation, and don't let him run the show. If you let him call all the shots, you will feel worse in the end. I will always remember everything I ever wanted to say to my exes when they broke up with me, but never did. I regret not telling them what jerks they were, so don't make the same mistake! If he is acting like a child, tell him so. If he is being rude, shout it from the rooftops. Walk away from him, don't let him walk away from you.
Once all the dirty, messy breakup stuff has been taken care of, then you can cry, but not now.