This last semester I dated a woman briefly. 3 dates. We were talking for over a month though. She is a great woman. Really had pretty much everything I was looking for. On the second date she mentioned she might have MS, and an MRI has shown some brain damage. Fast forward several weeks another MRI showed more damage (white matter, and cerebellum) (doc says it is not MS, but he doesn't know what is wrong, or why). This was posted on FB. I called, we talked. I had just gotten over being bad sick for over a week and was behind in all my classes. We fell out of touch for the rest of the semester. And I was kind of glad. I really didn't have the heart to tell her I couldn't date someone that is having some unknown progressive degenerative neurological disorder / disease. And I felt bad about it. I'm a really empathetic person. My heart truly goes out to her. And I feel kinda like a jerk. I made contact with her, a few weeks ago. She had somethign of mine I wanted back, and I didn't want to make a direct approach and just ask "for my stuff back", so I said I felt bad about how we had just stopped talking. She said she didn't see how we could work at this point. I think she thought I was trying to get back with her and I conceeded no, I don't think we could work out. And we chatted. And she agreed to meet some time later so I could get my stuff. About a week and a half later, she text me saying she "has been thinking a lot lately. And she likes me. A lot." I was a whirl wind of emotion. I want to. But. Anyway, I didn't reply. She text me the next weeked, (a couple days ago) at a microbiology conference we were both supposed to go to. Saying she was talking to someone I knew (by name) that does research in the lab next to mine. This is all I think about all day. All I can think about is: Her. Am I being a jerk? Should I have text her back? Am I doing the right thing? Should I try to meet and talk it out? Should I date her / love her anyway, pain be damned.
- Yes, date her.30% (3)27% (4)28% (7)Vote
- Nope. Move on.40% (4)13% (2)24% (6)Vote
- Geez man, I don't know. / I can't answer this question.30% (3)60% (9)48% (12)Vote
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Maybe if she was really amazing. But I'm so torn... You also have to protect yourself because you'd be dating someone who will -by the looks of it- at some point forget who you are or at least would become very dependent on you. It would be quite the rollercoaster...1