So a girl I asked out and who rejected me wants us to get a place together. I already have my own place but she wants to stay in her town. In fine with it, I work there anyway and it would save some money, plus would be less boring because we get on really well together.
But I have strong feelings for her and she obviously isn't thinking about me like that, is talking about eventually getting into a relationship and calling me friend all the time.
We message each other pretty much every night but don't meet up in person that often. I thought maybe moving in together her feelings might grow for me, but I'm not so sure, a lot of stuff I've read says you need to back off and create some distance for feelings to grow, but it seems impossible because she messages me all the time and pretty much gives up on people that are distant with her.
She was once going to go on a date with a guy until he started not contacting her as much and doing one word answers and that put her off because she has abandonment issues (her dad walked out).
I want to live with her, she's a lovely person but if she never ends up dating me and is bringing guys back all the time or just seeing them whilst I'm there with string feelings I feel like it'll just hurt a lot.
I don't know if I should just tell her. She either thinks I think of her as just a friend or is kidding herself that I do.
She's really excited about this place, she couldn't afford it in her own and I don't want to let her down really.
What do I do? And girls, have you ever moved in with a guy you friendzoned and fallen in love with him? Or just thought of him as even more of a friend?
I still have feelings for her, feel it could get awkward.
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What. In. The. World
she rejected you, now she wants you to live with her? She doesn't want to inconvenience herself, so even though you already have a place of your own, she wants you to uproot yourself, and move out of your place to a different town just to help her pay for a place she can't afford on her own? This is like megafriendzoned, she appears to have absolutely zero regard for your feelings0
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