The guy that i'm seeing has never been in a relationship prior to me. And it literally took him 6 months (with my help) to admit his feelings for me before asking me out (again, with my help). Even before he asked me out, he is a horrendous texter. I just won't hear from him at all, but when i see him in person it's obvous that he likes me. I'll try to communicate with him, but he's a slow replyer or just stops replying. We usually see each other once a week, but since it's summer we work opposite schedules or i just won't hear from him so i dont know if he's free or not because he replies so late or is tired from his construction job.
It's been 3 months, he's introduced me ash is girlfriend, i met his older sister and his friends... but we barely talk/see each other. Is he just clueless on how to be in a relationship bc of the lack of experience or should i move on because he's not as interested as i thought he was (he chased me for so long... i dont get it).
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That constant communication 'bullshit' ( :) ) girls need, is NOT natural for us.
We don't care about communicating all the time and sending messages everyday, sometimes even several times a day.
We only do it with you because we know (from experience) that you NEED it. Otherwise we wouldn't do it.
We're not naturally aware that time deteriorates the quality of our relationship with you if there is no communication because that's not how it works for guys.
In fact, I could meet any of my good friends after a year without sending them a message and they would still behave as if the last time we saw each other was yesterday. Time without communication has no effect on the state of male relationships.
It's impossible to do this with a chick however. As soon as a guy stops talking to her for over 2 weeks , she immediately starts assuming the lack of communication is a sign of an underlying problem and that therefore the relationship should be terminated.
It's ridiculous to me (but I'm a guy lol) but that's just how (most of) you chicks are and we can't GUESS it until we date you. So yeah... he is clueless.
You should calmly explain all this to him. You're his first so it's normal you have to do it. You can't just dump him for not being a psychic if you catch my drift.
I hope that helps.1
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