I'm 25 and I've never had a girlfriend, sex or been kissed. Growing up I was always the more mature guy, more mature than most of my friends anyway. I have different interests of most guys my age. I am a bit of a bookworm and a homebody and I don't frequent bars or clubs. I'm the kind of guy who is down-to-earth, kind, considerate, intelligent, responsible and genuinely sensitive, never gets in trouble and always does what is right.
There is one area of my life I have always failed in, girls. I am picky. I don't want to date or sleep with a girl I have no attraction to whatsoever. What would be the point? I’m a pretty stubborn. Not to mention the only thing most of the girls I know care about was getting into a guy’s pants. They don't want a boyfriend, just a fuckbuddy. I'm not interested in one-night stands or cheap hook-ups. I value committed, authentic romantic relationships.
I have met very few genuine women. There were many girls I felt attracted to but they almost always had boyfriends already or were uninterested in relationships themselves.
I have however been out on a couple of dates, they all ended in disaster however. The first girl I dated was set up by mutual friends and she turned up drunk to our date. So drunk, she could hardly walk. The second girl I dated the longest, we went on three dates before I found out she had a kid, which was a dealbreaker for me. With the third girl the date went great. Conversation came easy. So easy in fact, she felt like she was talking to a long time friend, which in her mind meant there was no spark between us and she just wanted to be friends. Even when a girl really likes me she doesn't want a relationship with me.
Last, but certainly not least, is my shyness. I don’t know how to open up to women. I didn’t know how to talk or relate to them. It's something that has bothered me my whole life.
Do you think I'm a loser? Any advice?
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