Guys always tell me that in situations where I get hit on or harassed by a guy, I have to be direct. If a guy is crushing on me and I don't like him, I have to be direct. But I noticed whenever I am direct, no matter how polite, I still get called a bitch. I am super straight forward and when a guy asks me "why" I won't fuck, talk to or date them, I am honest because I've also been told that guys want honesty.
Seriously, I can't find a balance: when I am straight forward and direct, you guys get butt hurt. If I'm passive and polite, you harass the shit out of me then blame it on me for not being direct enough.
K so not all guys are like this, I'm just fuming. But help, what do I do?
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Be direct, you are doing everyone a favor. The guys who freak out on you are doing it because their feeling are hurt so they want to hurt your feelings back. People tend to try to pull others into whatever emotional state they are in. Your doing them a favor though, every time their feelings get hurts it can help them build a thicker skin.
In my opinion confidence in dating is built more on failure than it is on success. After a while you learn it does not matter what some random person thinks of you and that there are billons of other girls to talk to.
I hate when a girl is wish washy. If you are not interested tell me. The time I wasted on you could have been spent talking to a girl who is.1