Okay here is a backstory and I asked for girls only because I want to see the opposite point of view.
Last year I reconnected with this girl I knew in high school. She's been studying abroad and is coming home in a couple months. We were friends in HS but since we reconnected and been talking for almost a year now we have gotten closer and she said she has feelings for me. I do too and we agreed that we would start dating when she comes back to America.
So last night she called me up and said she slept with one of her classmates over there. She said she doesn't really like him and it didn't mean anything, it was just a stupid mistake blablablabla. I asked if she was drinking when she did that she said she was not. Anyways I am fucking furious about that, even though we are not technically in a relationship she still expressed feelings and an intention to date me. So I feel like if she was serious about that she wouldn't have slept with some random guy.
I don't know how to handle this, now she is freaking out because she is afraid I will stop talking to her and will not be there when she comes back. Honestly I am thinking about it because why would I keep waiting for this girl if she did not even wait two months when we were about to start dating for real? Am I crazy for being angry about this? Girls if you were in this situation and a guy you had feelings for did this, how would you react?
Personally I don't know if I can accept this because I am a very jealous man, and there is literally nothing that can take her actions back. So I either have to suck it up and deal with it, or cut her off.
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First off, you have to give her some credit for being honest with you. she could've lied and said she was drunk or not even mention sleeping with a classmate of hers. she cares about you and your guys' future relationship that much that she would risk you not wanting to date her by telling you that she slept with another guy. I'm not saying that what she did was okay or reasonable. I'm just saying that you shouldn't be so angry with her that you'd throw out the idea of dating her. No I don't think you being upset about this is crazy. You have the right to be. Heck, I'd be mad if I were you. I would probably ask him multiple questions: Why would you sleep with her? Do you even care about us? Do you want to date me? Was that a one time thing? Was she an ex girlfriend? E. t. c
but I also think you should give her a chance. I see both sides in this situation. Yes, her sleeping with a guy gives you the impression that she's not serious about dating you and that she couldn't control her hormones but pretend this situation was reverse. Yes , you probably wouldn't sleep with a classmate but pretend that you did. Would you want her to give you another chance? She made a mistake and she regrets it. (Well, I hope she does) everyone deserves another chance. Let her gain your trust though. But after that second chance don't give her another. People only get 2 chances :P. I hope this helped1