My boyfriend called and asked me to come out and get lunch with him. I'm home working on an assesment and really dont feel like it, I also just had lunch. I'm questioning the relationship anyway, as we've grown apart and I'm still working on my feelings as to if i want to continue it.
I told him I dont want a 'date' where I come and watch him eat. He doesn't talk when he eats so its not much fun... I offered for another a day, but he said no and got grumpy with me. I feel bad, but at the same time I don't want to do something I feel like, with some one I have mixed feelings on.
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You did exactly what you should have done. You were honest with him, and had you gone reluctantly, you could have become passive aggressive about something totally unrelated, like traffic or just been pissed off the rest of the day, also putting you further behind on your assessment.
It's okay to say "no" and he really shouldn't get annoyed if he asked and you politely refused. Otherwise why ask if you expect your partner to drop what he/she is doing and hang out when the timing isn't optimal.
In addition, it sounds like you're not head over heels for him, so there's no reason to make him believe you're still going strong and wanting to be attached to him by a tether.0