Started dating my cousins best friend recently met her through my cousin we both fell hard the first day we met, i added her on facebook and got her number cause she wanted to text instead of typing on FB.
She started talking to me and after he just went all uphill we started texting and talking all day after a week or 2 we are now boyfriend and girlfriend, now here's the problem i tried to play the "let her text me first, let her make topics first etc" cause i use to always chase chase chase but after a while she asked me how come i never text her first and stuff. she went to DR on Sunday won't be back till this Sunday. She calls me her bear and she really likes me but i feel like the convos started dying down between us cause we texted so much first week we started talking. But i feel like a week with her in D R without talking or texting (cause she can't its expensive, will make the relationship stronger) i really want us to work between me and her. last thing she told me was after i asked her why she wasn't replying to me faster and what was taking her long to respond she said this "Okay how about i use this trip as a set assessment kind of thing. Because right now im just lost in my emotions. which i think its also what has made me be a crappy igirlfriend. so when i get back and my brain is all clear we speak about this again and come to a logical understand of whats happening is that okay? and then i told her sounds fair and i will cya soon and she goes i will cya soon my bear *kisses* i mean i dont disrespect her or nothing the only thing that was holding us back a bit and started feeling crappy was we use to write like essays while we text now when we text its just like 1 sentence and than reply like 1 hour later or something?
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Sounds like you just ran out of fuel, if your talking about every little thing straight away then you won't have anything to talk about later. Doing your own thing once in awhile will help, but if your always together then you won't have anything to talk about because she was right there with you. I don't think this is necessarily a bad thing for you, it just means maybe split your focus between outside and inside. I have heard someone describe a relationship like breathing, you inhale eachother and just absorb everything, but then many people just leave it their and the relationship suffocates. Healthy relationships requires an exhale period where go and have a life hang out with friends, that way when you come back you can breath eachother back in and absorb everything between yourselves again. Hopefully that will solve all your problems.0