Long story short i struggle with trust and strong emotions like love and crap. I told my boyfriend that I am terrified but I couldn't explain why. and I think he is beginning to get annoyed with me. I can feel myself pulling away from him because of my fear and the worst part is that I can't explain any of it. If you're girlfriend was like this would you be annoyed with her? And if anyone could give me tips on how to get over my emotional problems that would be great as well
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I understand what you're talking about and I might be able to help.
First, I'd honestly be worried about saying the wrong thing, or something that brings back recollections or sensations you might be trying to avoid. Conversations about stuff like this can be pretty heavy too, and hard to communicate over text. If you would feel comfortable calling him on the phone or Skype, it might be easier. And you (or he) may not want to work through all of this in one conversation, because it's tough to handle emotionally for him also.
Second, I think you already know, but just in case, it's a terrible idea for your relationship to replace the role of a therapist or doctor in your life... he may want to say things which help you to feel better, and he might even be very good at that. But don't let him be your solution to feeling like shit. He might want to, but nobody has the mental or emotional capacity to be in love, and process that at the same time. The best he can be for you is... understanding, someone who knows, is there, and can identify with you. And that can be wonderful in itself.0