To begin with, I'm not a person who enjoy socialising. I usually spend most of my days alone and I don't talk much.
So there's this girl I have an infatuation on. I know it's an infatuation because I don't know her very well, we don't seem to have similar hobbies, we exchange pleasantries but don't know what to say to each other. Which is normal for me - when I talk with most other people this happens a lot.
But she's a nice, dependable girl, she seems kinda interested in going out. I'm nervous and excited about asking her out, but I'm just not sure if I should.
It should be easy to get along when we're outside and doing something together, having fun. But I'm guessing after we head home and stuff, we wouldn't have anything to talk about again. We wouldn't text, we wouldn't call, there wouldn't be anything interesting to talk about.
It's stressful because we all have this common image of relationships being full of texting and calling and what now. But it's not who I am. And I also have this doubt that - perhaps if I can't talk to her, then she's not the one for me.
So I don't know if I should really ask her out. Or should I just make an attempt to exchange texts with her for a week or two., if it's super awkward then stop. This is way more stressful than I first thought it out to be.
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I think you should go with your second idea, to just text and talk for a while before asking her out. But texting has the disadvantage that you forget how to talk in real life. You may form a false image of her through text messages and then you won't know how to actually interact with her. But if you can't talk to her in real life, then it seems pointless to ask her out.1