Usually these things actually have an underlying reason, and, despite the optimistic platitude that happiness and confidence is somehow a choice, ultimately, it isn't, or else everyone would be happy or confident. In regards to reasons, there could be a number of them, hell, in regards to having no confidence depression itself could be the reason.
So, why do girls, or people in general, hate guys with no confidence or are depressed so much, why do they treat them as if they're inferior?
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Women, and people in general hate weakness. Lack of a strong confident demeanor or any type of sadness or depression are seen as weakness in our society. If you lack confidence, you are correct in saying that it is not just a choice. Here is what you can choose to do:
1. Work on changing your body language. You have some physical habits that are hurting you. Correcting this will result in better interactions with people, which will boost your confidence.
2. Learn to maximize your voice. There are voice lessons online that can help you make the most of your voice. This will result in better interactions with people, which again, will boost your confidence.
3. Look people in the eye. They won't be scared, they won't be angry, they will start to respect what you say to them, even if they don't like you! this will boost your confidence.
Do you see how this is an upward spiral that starts with changing your body and results in changing your mindset? Works way better than affirmations!0