I'm 20. He's 29. I really really like this man, I have never felt this way about a guy before. I'm super picky & indepedent (and still have my v card). I want someone special.
I met him, he asked me out 4 days ago. We have seen each other each night since for a few hours each. 2nd date we kissed, night 4 we made out. he knows im a virgin. He says we can take it slow, yet he wants me. Like, he'll say it's all your call and up to you, but then he'll put me in a position in which I feel like he just wants to have sex right now (but he doesn't force himself). He says he is only looking for something serious. He has had long relationships in the past (3,4 and 8 years). He said he's old and doesn't just want a fling.
I'm scared though. Mostly because i really am falling for him, and I don't want him to reel me in, have sex, then leave. He talks about the future with me, more than I do. Like he says how crazy this all is, he never would have imagined meeting me, and we only met 4 days ago and yet he is this crazy about me. I believe him, yet I am cautious and unsure. Of course I know the best would be to not have sex, but how long should I wait before im in the clear? Because when he touches me, i feel electrified from within, like energy just zooming up and down my body and I'm like putty in his hands. I have will power, but I also really desire him. He really does seem genuine, and he wants me to meet his friends. He wants to meet my family and visca versa. He asked to make it official already. We are. He wants me to be more affectionate, but im so scared that it's holding me back. I don't know what the rules are. We've seen each other 4 times in 4 days... Are we moving too fast?
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I think you are moving too fast. I can understand how you feel though, really wanting someone but at the same time, afraid that all he wants is something physical. Just wait and get to know him better. I think it's super early to be introducing each other to one another's families, but it's fine to introduce one another to each other's friends. I personally think it's fine that y'all have kissed but let me tell you, making out will lead to further touching and kissing and before you know it you won't be able to hold back. Maybe he is genuine and wants something besides sex, but it's only been 4 days. You've held your v card for 20 years--I think holding out for a little longer won't be too hard. Good luck!2