I’m freaking out right now!!
So I have been flirting with this guy from time to time. But tonight I decided to let him know I don’t want sex and that I like him and want to get to know him. We were texting. All he said was “yeah sure hahaha well goodnight I have to get up early tomorrow” then I just wrote back its okay if you don’t ill still be cool with you. and I put goodnight. He did not respond back. I feel like I messed up and maybe went in too hot? My only concern is that his sister is my friend and now I hope I did not make things awkward.
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well here is the good news. . you are right he didn't actually need to get to bed right then and there. the bad news is that his actions took one of a few different paths. either he read all that and was suddenly blindsided or he is uninterested in a nonsexual relationship.
in both cases your next step should be to talk to him tomorrow morning and ask him out to lunch or for coffee. this is mostly because if he was blindsided he will most likely be curious about what to do and unsure how to respond ( this does not guarantee a yes response from him but it does help speed things along significantly). if on the other hand he is just chasing tail he will most likely turn you down because you have already ( and rightly so) shut the door on early sex in the relationship.
i wish you luck1