Alright, so I'm single & tool a break from dating after the split. Now that I'm getting back out there, it seems guys only have one motive. Which happens to be sex.
I've been asked out on date's from people who I work with to patients. I'm pretty shy/awkward in person & I am NOT use to people paying attention to me. Never thought men would find me attractive because I'm not thin. So all of this is new to me. Anyways, They are all sweet and nice in the beginning, claiming they aren't looking for sex, but for something "genuinely real" (pfft, bull). Out of nowhere they want sex. It happens every single damn time lol.
I don't dress provocatively, no mixed signals, my conversations are always weird and awkward. The guys that are shy and timid seem to have more issues than I can handle. I don't go for the "pretty boys" "the physical fit/attractive men" (not like they'd even speak to me aha) I usually go for physical I honestly don't care about looks, so I'm not picky.. (I've gone out with bigger men, average sized, any back ground, even with a guy who set himself on fire and became deformed in the face) I'm really open as you can tell, I believe in giving people a chance, because that's what I'd want for myself...
When it comes to women I have luck in that department, the ones I've gone out with are usually straight up about what they are looking for. If it doesn't work out we become friends. It's just the men, they aren't honest about their motives, it's not hard to say "Hey, I'm looking for some quick booty"
I don't understand, are men today just not interested in getting to know someone first? (this also happens when I'm just looking for friends, they'd rather be Feb though)
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These guys are lying because they feel like if they are upfront they will ruin their chances. Women have the luxury of being able to be more forward because when men do it it's risky and not always well received but if a woman does it it's considered sexy. If women had the same social constraints as men in that regard they would also lie to you. It's not a problem with men it's a problem of people lying to serve their own interests. Don't make the mistake of thinking women are honest either, the lies are just different because of differing agendas and social standards.2