I'm in a interracial relationship and I can't tell my mum because I'm afraid. She's not racist, I can have white friends but I can't date them.
I'm even afraid to tell her i've been dating him for a while now and that he's white. I'm 17 years old, 18 in 4 moths time.
I can't bring him to my neighborhood because here we all know each other and they could tell my parents.
What can I do?
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If they already aren't racist then you have an easier time to get acceptance. I don't know your situation due to your age, but it could also be they are a bit protective of you for dating just about anyone. But allowing someone friends but no boyfriend of a different race is still prejudiced. My own mother was like that and I dated an Asian as my first "real" boyfriend at 16. I had to ease her in to it, but when she realized how happy I was, the issue of his race bothered her less, and he helped her knock whatever stereotype problem she had with Asians. Like your mom, I could have all the friends I wanted, but she was old school and just expected I'd end up with a white guy.
Even with my husband (I'm in an interracial marriage), I had to ease her in to it by letting her know I 'made a new friend' and when she batted around some jokes of his ethnicity just trying to have fun, I eventually stopped her and she asked why I was suddenly so protective, and I said, "Did it occur to you that maybe I like him more than that?" She said, "Ohhhhhhh." But the trick was always getting her to just like him first so that when she learned of our relationship she wasn't suddenly shocked by it without even knowing who he is.
I'd tell her you're friends with him and how much you care about him and let her just ease in to that, then if she's anything like how my mother was, she'll end up liking him too much to care and won't deny the new happiness she sees in her daughter because of him. :) Good luck!1