My girlfriend and i are both 17 years old and have been dating for about 6 months and recently we both went on separate vacations with our families. She went to Mexico and I went to Italy. We really can't say apart and we love each other very much so we sometimes video call each other to talk and stay close, and note that i get jealous and protective of her very easily. We were video calling about two weeks ago and she said that her cousin looks "really good (note that he is also 17)" and i know that my girlfriend is the most attractive girl teenager in the family and her cousin is the most attractive guy teenager. And then, noticing my uncomfortability with what she said, she told me that i was way hotter than him. I managed to find out that she sees him twice a year to visit him and that they greet with kisses on the cheek. She tried to make me feel better by saying that he just looks "a lot better than he did before" and that he's her cousin (this makes it no better, cousins are not exactly "close family"). I feel really uneasy, considering that the day we video called was the day she met him again, and her outfit was quite on the "sexy" side. It's been three of eight weeks on vacation and we had our first argument ever during the second week and kept going. We know that we love each other and don't want to argue but it's hard. When i told her how i felt about her and her cousin, she suggested that i didn't trust her and then kept an attitude for the rest of the call, even when i apologized for my accusations. I don't know if i am being unreasonable but is it a bad thing that i am a jealous and protective boyfriend? I can trust my girlfriend with her cousin but i can't trust her cousin with my girlfriend, especially when she makes herself look ten times more attractive then she is when she meets me for a rather fancy event, and she's just visiting her cousin's house, with her defensiveness, i'm not sure i trust her. She's a good and honest girl. What should i do?
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Calm down ans let me tell u... I feel u bro.. Like seriously.. .. The same thing i feel... The exact.. . Piece to piece.. .. I am overprotective of my girl and she doesn't like it very much and says i dont trust her... But i always its the guys i dont trust but i trust her with all my heart and soul. She never listens though. :(... Its a shame i know... We get in to some arguments too... Some too bad :(... My advice is... Calm down for now... Talk to her and tell her that u r really very valuable and important. I can't lose u. I trust u more than my life but i dont trust other guys. Girl... U r beautiful and just too hot for me and i feel really overprotective of u. Sorry my love but i just fear losing u a lot... Its better i die than see that day... I think these kinds of words that could connect to her heart would help... Try something similar... Best of luck... These work better with a sad and dismal face and if she is near by u and u can hold her hand... I know she is far... Try it on video chat... Tell me if it worked... :)1
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