So I'm 17 and I never had a girlfriend in my entire life. I'm am definetly straight, I just don't know how to flirt or make a girl laugh on the first approach. There some girls that I'm friends with, but none of them that I'm interested in dating. There's been times when a couple of attractive girls did actually try to talk to me but I just didn't know how to act and respond in a flirty way back. Can anyone give me some good advice or tips about what to talk about or how to act on the first approach? What are some of the best things I can do/say and what are some of the worst things I can do?
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Well first of all, there's nothing wrong with never having a girlfriend. At 17, you're still young. Heck, one of my best guy friends who is straight, pretty attractive, works out, etc. has never had a girlfriend, and a lot of it has to do with him not prioritizing relationships or looking for a relationship just for the sake of having one. But as you articulated, your female friends you're not interested in dating.
As for tips, well, you can't work with what you do not have. If you're sweet, be sweet. If you're funny, be funny. The idea is to be honest and open to communicating, and not afraid to put yourself out there. Look for common interests, like "tell me you saw the season finale of GoT last night..." or something else that your into. If they bite, yay! If not, look for something else. Or maybe they're not someone you'd want to date anyways?
If you're feeling particularly daring, you could tell a girl with a genuine grin that you like how she looks that day and you'll definitely put yourself on her radar.
Worst thing you can do is do the "nice guy" thing where you pretend to be her friend, are only interested in her in a sexual/romantic sense, and then if she rejects you, you lash out and do not want to be her friend anymore. Be honest with where you're coming from, or you'll hurt her, her opinion of you, and yourself.1
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