SO I've never done this dating thing before, but i'm pretty sure it start with getting to know eachother right? I seem to give off this "tell me your life" vibe and so does my mom, whic hI don't mind because I like that people feel comfotable and trusting of me and thats what this guy said he found interesting about me, and that there's something else but he wants to knwo what it is. this guy. After work we spoke on the phone for a couple hours and it was fine at first, seem like a good guy, but then he started talking a lot deeper. Which isn't a bad thing, but he basically said he already knows me, and started saying he knows i've never had a boyfriend or sex, I assume because of my obvious awkwardness, and that he knows im not like emotionally open but he wants to make me "emotionaly uncomfortable" so I can feel comfortable talking to him. by the way we've only met twice before no conversation just hellos, and he didn't know my name until after I told him, after he asked for my number. When it was quiet he'd say like "your nervous, huh?" which at first I thought was funny because he knew I was so obviously nervous but then he kept asking and asking what I'm thinking, if it's about him, said I should be a model, said he'd support me in whatever I do, that I'm already a part of his life and i'm not some girl from work, told me about he and his female best friend sleept together and that she seems like she still wants to but he doesn't (which is a huge red flag of BS for me), said he knows i'm the type of person not to trust easily and loose all trust with one fuck up (which I thought was normal?), and I don't know I feel like he said too much for a first time actually having a conversation. BAsically everything he said to me reminded me of Chistian Grey of 50 Shades and I took it as manipulation, so it scares me a little. He had a lot of bad things go on in his life and I feel like he needs to gather himself before he dates anyone really. He seems like a really good guy with his coworkers, and I love that he's kinda a dork, we have a lot in common so far, we talked about his life and it was a good conversation until it got weird, to me. I guess my question is, is this normal for a first conversation of interest? He wants me to go hangout with him, but how do I say if this is gonna happen we gotta really slow it down, especially because i'm knew to all this.
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Talk to him, let him know how you feel. No relationship is going to work if there is a lack in communication and you want to be able to tell him anything and everything so tell him... also tell him there's time for everything, there's time to do things but only when that time comes no need to rush it. If he's the right guy he'll understand this... if not, then he'll pressure and thats when you back off and honestly this is when you try to move on because guys like that don't tend to hang around long...1
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