This guy is 28, im 20. I'm still a virgin. I want to keep it for a bit.. I guess I like being a virgin, yet I wanna have sex badly. But I have good willpower :)
anyways, this guy and I started dating 2 weeks ago. We hit it off wonderfully. Made it official after date 3. However, each time I see him he brings up sex (whether it be in a serious manner or a jokingly & hopeful manner). I keep telling him (a firm) no; that I want to wait; that it is going too fast, etc. And he says he understands yet he continuously brings it up. He seems genuine in wanting something real with me. But it's just so fast. Is this unreasonable of me that I want to wait a few months first?
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When my boyfriend and I first met I was a virgin and he wasn't. Initially it was supposed to be a hookup (I was one horny virgin lol), but I chickened out. We ended up dating tho, and we definitely fooled around a lot tho (mostly for my pleasure cuz I was a noob and didn't really know about hjs and bjs) . But on the second date he pulled out a condom and I was like woah not cool and then the next day he texted me asking when I will be ready and I told him if all he wants is sex then he can go ahead and look elsewhere. After that he said he wouldn't ask again. Then about a month later he asked about sex cuz he was going down to texas to visit his family for a few weeks and I told him that I would consider when he got back. and we did after he got back (i couldn't take it I needed to lose my v cuz I was horny as fuck) But it was 3 months that I made him wait. And he had just gotten back from an 8 month deployment a month before I met him (which i didn't know at the time) and he was still able to patiently wait 3 months for sex with me (that is like a year of no sex). If my boyfriend can do that for me than I am sure that your boyfriend can chill out on asking you about it and no it is not unreasonable at all for you to want to wait. Everything me and my boyfriend did sexually was always at MY pace not his, and now we have the most wonderful sex life ever and I feel that it is because I have never once felt pressured to do something I don't want to do.2