Im a beautiful girl, everyone tells me this. I used to be ugly so I never lost that humility and feeling of being an average girl at best. I have a great sense of humour, I light up a room with my positive and genuine politeness with people. I am intelligent, pursuing a PhD but I never brag about what I do and only tell someone if asked so. I am fashionable and girly, love eating a lot of food. I have flaws as well of course such as being insecure (only developed ever since I faced a string of romantic failures while everyone around me did better), talkative (can be bad for some people), and perhaps many other things that only people can know. I am 26 and have reached a stage where I see love and relationships are working for everyone except me. I thought my day woud come but it never did and never will. I have stopped responding to guys hitting on me since I know it won't lead to anything. This one godly handsome guy I met in a seminar, showed clear interest and everyone around me saw it. They didn't understand why I wasn't just going for it. I guess I was unsure of all my failures and he didn't seem too interesting to me (besides his looks). Either way, eventually I realised I should perhaps give it a shot or at least get out there again. He once invited me to go to some party with him, but he didn't make a move or even try to move things along. By 7am i said i was tired and needed to go home and sleep. the next time i saw him, he seemed keen and yesterday a few of us were going out so I asked him to join. He said he wanted to at first and then cancelled, saying what about next week? Seriously... next week.. so I said okok, no problem:). And that was it. But today I felt down, why don't things ever work out for me? He clearly was interested and everyone sees it, but then no action. I always find myself in situations that make me feel horrible and not worth it. Because I have faced such things too often, whether in long term situations or not. So I give up
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" But today I felt down, why don't things ever work out for me?"
Hey, rejection sucks... dating gets repetitive and the amount of bad dating situations in a row can be frustrating and demoralizing... often times leads to how you feel now which is doubting yourself but.. we all go through it.
"I have stopped responding to guys hitting on me"
- hey your cards could be "no guys hit on me"
Whenever you get down on yourself you gotta think someone out there wishes they have your problems and could be in your shoes. I know it's hard sometimes to get out of the "woe is me" but at least your issues are "bad dates" and not something health related.
"Why do some girls face constant failure with guys?"
- Whenever i get frustrated with dating, i simply don't do it and divert my energy to something else i feel is positive for my life... Then once enough time has passed.. i'l jump in with a fresh and optimistic outlook.
If you're in a funk... no one you date is going to be fun because you're already starting off on the wrong foot, "i guess i'll do it, probably gonna end with a bowl of ice cream and t. v." rather than "ooo exciting, where should we go on our date!"0