I've had girls just take advantage of me practically my whole life. Despite putting myself out there, girls either completely ignore me or hurt me. It's gotten so bad I'm ready to give up on women. I have a friend who acts like an asshole to women, treats them like dirt and he manages to get them hanging all over him, so that seems to be the way to go. It seems being your nice self gets you absolutley nowhere with women but a broken heart.
Should I just be the bad guy/asshole?
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The thing that is attractive about assholes is that they "don't give a shit". They don't go out if their way to please the girl and he isn't clingy and too attached to the outcome.
If you can adopt this "don't give shit" attitude then you will come a long way. But you don't need the asshole part. Even though in reality some women like the asshole part because that is what some consider a "challenge".
In the end you will often attract what you are. Sure, being an asshole will likely get you laid here and there. But you are not likely to find the love of your life by being an asshole because you are likely to attract women with some kind of issue that you don't want.0