HELP: The worst part is I can't really talk to any of my friends about this because the tinder app is invoved, which I wouldn't like to admit and I'm slightly embarrassed about. I'm afraid they would judge me.
I was crushing on one of my gym's receptionists and finally got to go out on a date with him. We never got on another one because we're both so busy (which I'm kind of relieved about because I like him, but I think he likes me more and it wouldn't feel honest to keep going out with him), but we always flirt, he compliments me a lot and he's a really good and sweet guy.
The other day I went out spontaneously on a tinder date with a guy I'd never met before. He turned out to be a bit weird and I didn't feel like we were connecting or anything. EPIC FAIL: We walked into a restaurant where the gym receptionist was sitting with a male friend. I felt so ashamed and guilty, and the next day at the gym I felt like I had to justify myself to him and so I did (only I lied and told him he was an old friend). He'd indeed thought he was my boyfriend...
Then this week a really good male friend of mine from far away (whom I had dated before) turned out to be in town. I was really busy so I had to reeschedule several times and, finally, on the day we were supposed to meet, something happened to me and I ended up in emergencies at the hospital, so I told him and cancelled my appointment with him. That night I was going on a second date with another guy from tinder (also really sweet and nice), and since I was feeling well enough after the hospital, I did. EPIC FAIL: My visiting friend saw us. And today, when I finally met him, he told me and acted all hurt awkard about it.
Now: I've never even kissed any of these guys, I've just been on dates with them. (I'm even still a virgin!) Why do I feel so guily and dirty? Should I even feel guily? I just want to meet people, have a good conversation and see if something ever flourishes... What do y
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I think that you probably feel guilty because you did lie about it. There's nothing wrong with dating more than one guy, there's not really monogamy when it comes to casual dating, but you should always be honest. You should always make it clear that you're not just dating that one guy and you should draw boundaries to show that you're not yet boyfriend and girlfriend. It's when the people involved aren't aware of what you're doing that they get hurt.3
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