I've been hurt quite a fair few times in the past when it comes to guys, but recently a guy started speaking to me who seems like a genuinely decent guy with good intentions, plus shows interest, but I can't shake myself out of the mindset that he's going to hurt me soon enough just like a lot of other guys have and it worries me because I don't want to have to spend the rest of my life ruining my good opportunities just because I'm assuming that I'm going to end up getting hurt, what can I do to prevent myself from thinking this way?
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You can try talking to him about it. If he is a decent guy as you say he would sit and listen. If you want to also ask for his opinion. Try and work out your triggers for this behaviour. Write them down even. Writing triggers the logical part of your brain giving you a better perspective. Read it and try to think how you can overcome them. Even including him if you want to.0