I used to be the sterotypical clingy, overemotional nice guy desperate to impress and please a girl. Needless to say she lost interest when only just started dating and ending up going for guy with a bad boy persona.
Anyway I"ve learnt not to care what girls think of me, hit the gym and got better at lying.
Long story short I ran into this girl at a club, hooked up with her, told her I'd call her and then deleted her number.
I think I'm cured and finally have the closure to move on from this sorrry chapter of my life.
So, am I cured?
- CuredVote A
- "nice guys" can't be cured, but treated.Vote B
- There's not treatment/cure for "nice guy" syndrome.Vote C
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I fail to see how getting better at lying is a cure for anything, so in reading your question I would have to say you are pretty, pretty far from being cured.
Here's what the real cure feels like...
... first, you realize a Cure was not a matter of any particular course of action you ever took. The problem is you blaming it all on everyone else. You're such a good and sweet person how bloody dare anyone impinge on your intentions? Wake up to this... the reason women are not turned on to you is not because they are necessarily more attracted to other people, it's that "nice guy" behavior is a turn off to begin with as it is nothing but ulterior motives you don't have the sincerity to move on up front.
... second, once realizing that you being God's Little Snowflake are the epicenter of your lousy situation, you do the hardest thing of all. You let go of all those Expectations. They're wrong because you lay them on Other People, people who have no idea what is going on in your head. How can other people be expected to live up to such lofty ideals? They Can't and no one would likely want to if they knew what they were... because You are not Them. Other people have their own wants and needs, too.
... third, once you get to the end of your path and you honestly feel like you've changed I can assure you it will be wholly underwhelming in it's finality, it will feel like something died in you because honestly it has, but most importantly your perspective will have so fundamentally changed that you won't recognize yourself.2