I actually brought it up because we got close and talked all the time like a couple, yet he wouldn't ask me out. He would talk about it, but wouldn't actually do it. Then, I jokingly mentioned I was making all the moves and he said "How about this" and asked me out, asking me to let him know when I was free. The day I was free, he had something to do and kinda ran from the date (or hid) in my opinion. It just felt like he chickened out and proceeded to hide behind his phone whenever we didn't see each other at a friend's party. We slept next to each other on a loveseat at my friends and he got closer, but that's all the would do. I left the next day feeling pretty sad and unwanted. Holding hands would have been enough progress for me. He was just confusing because one week, he'd be very talkative and clingy. The next, we would barely talk. Then, that weekend, he would be upset because I hadn't told him something about my life or birthday plans. To me, he wasn't acting like he wanted to be in my life (date me), so why should I tell him? I brought up the moves again and he put the ball back in my court by saying to let him know when I was free, then I didn't hear from him again all week. So, I brought up the fact that I didn't think he was ready to date, or just didn't want to date me. (What woman wants to date someone she has to remind to ask her out?) He took a while to think about it and said he hadn't thought about it that way, but that he thought I was right. He said he wasn't at that point right now, but that he really liked me, liked getting to know me, that he thought we could have something good, and didn't want to rush it. He also said not to let him hold me back (I mentioned I we should both keep our options open) but he didn't know what kinda time he needed. But, he kept stressing that no matter what, he REALLY wanted to continue talking and liked what we had so far. That was a week ago...
Is there hope? I guess I'm just a little disappointed...
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This guy clearly has no idea what he's doing.
Do you really want to affiliate yourself with someone who doesn't know what he wants?
I would take what he said about not being ready to date at face value, I would have said "I want to date you and get to know you more because you seem like a really nice and interesting guy. Let me know if you change your mind!" and just left it at that.
If a girl said she wasn't ready to date, I'd assume she just doesn't want to date me... relationships are supposed to be easy... he's either too shy/insecure/weak to ask you out OR he's playing some stupid ass game.0
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