So I have had 3 proper boyfriends an dated 4 altogether. I have had guys take me cinema, cook for me, buy me flowers etc. I don't expect that as romance is dead these days but u appreciated what they did at that time.
All I expect is an honest respectful person that makes an effort with me as I do them. For a first date a country walk or coffee is fine I don't care for restaurants or anything as its not ideal to get to know someone.
Maybe when after months a nice spontaneous date night or meal or drinks would be nice but all I actually care for is time with a person. I've met guys in person an from online. Most lie an say they want something more when really sex is all they care for. Some disappear an don't explain after planning a first date. This happened two days ago an few weeks before.
I feel like men in real life an men online are mostly fake an not actually mature enough to have a relationship. Even older guys I try but it don't make one bit of difference sometimes their worse.
In terms of looks I have dated ugly, average an good looking guys. So I am not even fussy but I know I have my flaws like many do an i am working on them lately an trying to be productive in life.
My last boyfriend was start of June didn't last long an he basically was after sex only after two weeks he wanted it I said not ready an he asked me to change myself for him. That was never gonna happen. A guy had the nerve to request I change instead of doing what guys who want just sex do an go on tinder or find an easy girl. He tried to trick me convinced me he cared bought me flowers. He wanted sex after one date well a country walk.
He says if I can change then great but if not he's gone. So he dumped me. But after he said all this I was upset he said he was just angry an didn't mean it but he did.
i feel like all guys may be somewhat like this now an people say I expect too much so should I
Most Helpful Guy
Yuck yuck yuck. The guys you date
It makes me mad that guys lie for sex. just be honest there are plenty of woman who only want sex. Go after those.
Me personally u might think this is dumb of me. I don't date girls right now. I look for a friends with benefits but I'm honest about my approach. And I only search for girls like that online. But for me that because I know my self enough to know that I'm not ready for. A relationship.
Now I believe in romance. Its not dead its just lost on the selfish. On guys part and gals.
A lesson u need to learn is. Guys will go put of there way for sex. They will pay they will teaval far distances for sex.
What u need to do is tell them on first date or first chat is that u have a no sex rule for 3 months. But have the guy still take u out no texting and messaging and crap. face to face hanging out. so u can read him.
Most men will lie and say nah man I'm a good one.
There are some good ones who won't cheat I know a lot of these guys. I Alps have friends who are sleeze and cheat. but the "good" ones are very rare or taken
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Most Helpful Girl
You shouldn't have to do something you don't want to just for a guy. If you don't want to have sex with him then he shouldn't pressure you into it. You're better off without him.3