I finally told him that he was pushing me away because I cared and that I knew this because I used to do the same thing with guys that cared, but that I wasn't going to play this push/pull game with him. I told him I saw the pattern and had worked hard to fix it, which is why I began to reevaluate things when he started pulling back on me. I told him I knew he was a good guy and just hurt - not a jerk like all the others and - that if he wanted - I was willing to work with him on it because I felt like for once in my life I found someone who has a good heart and is just broken like me. I said that we always went for people who never cared or pressured us, which caused us to open up and get hurt instead of going against the grain and going for people who made us uncomfortable for all the right reasons. I said that if I didn't get a response, I would go on about my life, make peace with it, and wish him the best. I just had to take this chance because life is short and you gotta take a risk. It's been two days and I have no idea of he'll ever respond (because he takes a while to think on things), but either way, I feel peace about it. I spoke from the heart and I feel comfort. Why? Why, even though I was being vulnerable, do I feel better about it, even if he never responds?
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bc you weren't being vulnerable -thats a misnomer- you were being BRAVE. people call what you did vulnerable to make themselves feel better for being cowards.
you were brave you had courage and you were honest and it was beautiful and you're soil bis feeling excellent atm. whether he responds or not you're freer now than you were a little while ago and it feels amazing.
respectg. i think what you did was a awersaomew and the situation is like exactly what 70% people are dealing with at any given time, bc they are encouraged to play games. instead of being courageous they just follow the leader and spend hours on gag reading into things that wouldst be saudi if they'd just set the person straight right off the bat,.
this is very inspiring for many people even if they dont get it now. im just so impressed. you were calm and explained everything and didn't have to be a cold ass or a hopeful twit about it. nice:)
this is making me smile.
if more people did this the game players would have no where to play.