I see this talked about a lot and from what I understand is a nice guy is actually a nice guy and a self proclaimed nice guy is a guy that thinks he is nice but really he treats people badly. Please no offsenive answers, I am just trying to understand better and I have not been offensive to anyone in this question. I am just asking for it to be explained to me a bit better. No mean comments.
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A truly nice guy does things without expectations, and I would say is detached from the outcome of how you'll react. He could pull out your chair for you to sit down just to be nice, he may even give you a lavish gift, but it's because he truly cares.
The nice guy you want to avoid has an agenda, and it's usually easy to see it. Because he'll push for a reaction from you to acknowledge the nice things he does for you because he actually thinks the nice guy is what you want or need, and he wants you to realize you need him. This guy may also subtlely tell you what you need or deserve in a way that paints him as your savior.
The best way to tell a genuine nice guy from a wolf in sheeps clothing is to notice how he acts around others and if his behavior is congruent with all, and not just from the woman he wants to bed!0