You see, my best friend recently confessed thag he is afraid to have feelings for me so what are some reasons you guys would be afraid of having feelings for a woman who is your best friend but you also already have sex with? Just curious.. i don't quite understand myself especially why he would boice that?
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One reason, in particular, why I would be afraid to have feelings for a woman and openly admit it to her is if there's something I deeply disagree with her on (or find something that she believes that I don't agree with and I'm extremely sensitive about) and feel might jeopardize the entire relationship, in the end or that there's something about her that I really don't know if I could ever "see past" so to speak. It's more my own shallowness, I guess. I've had several girls in the past that I was really good friends with and could totally see myself with EXCEPT one or two things kept me from doing so. Sometimes, at least for me, there can be things that, to me, are so important that they could mess things up for me entirely and I can't be sure that I'd keep interest. For instance, one girl I knew, even though I really liked her, she was far too sensitive and I couldn't be sensitive enough for her. I'd end up hurting her feelings and never realize it and I can't do that to any woman. I remember I cracked a joke, once, just teasing her a little just like I would any other girl that I had talked to and they were always fine with it or would maybe laugh or "throw it back" and such. She didn't seem to be bothered at first. About a few hours later, she just stopped talking to me completely ignoring me. She was like that for a few days. I had no idea what I did. I can't handle that kind of sensitivity. I'm VERY sensitive, but that's more than I can handle. I wouldn't be sensitive enough for her and that's just asking for tons of arguments and rough areas. Even though I really have feelings for her, I'm afraid to develop them because I've convinced myself that a relationship with her is a bad idea for reasons I know will be problematic later on in the relationship. It's usually on my end, though.0