So I've been talking to a guy I pretty much think is amazing, we went on one date so far that went really well and are supposed to meeting up again this week. According to his actions and words he really likes me as well, but he is terrible at responding to my texts. I am not constant I may even go an entire day without texting him, but I find this process difficult because I am thinking about talking to him and hoping he will message me the entire time... and he doesn't, then I feel insecure because to me, CLEARLY he does not have me on his mind or feel a particular urge to talk to me. But when he finally does our convos are fantastic. But the worst of all and when I send him a message and 12 hours later there is no response and my anxiety level is through the roof but all I can do is sit tight and try not to pester him, but I am staring at my phone constantly and want to throw it through a wall. I also am struggling with not getting angry because I take being ignored as a slight, and feel people should at least have the respect to text back that they are busy as soon as they get a chance to, out of consideration. Any advice on this issue? Any ideas that don't make me come off as pushy or needy? But also help me with the feeling of being ignored, undervalued, and disrespected?
We had a great convo two days ago, he said he wanted to call me the following day, I said that would be great, he never did. I texted "You said you were going to call me" yesterday. Still no response. I hate this.
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Had I been younger, I would have given advice based on mind games and 'make them suffer/wait/wonder a bit' and nonsensical shit like that. Past 30s, my only advice is: listen to what you CLEARLY feel. You find it annoying when someone plays hard to get and doesn't have the decency to answer one simple text (assuming you're not constantly spamming him)? Fine. Leave him alone and find someone else who'd be totally willing to chat and text as much as YOU like. Because point is, he's got to enjoy to do these things himself, in order of it to work, otherwise it will be a nightmare for both and one of you will get tired of games pretty soon (or at least, as soon as the 'cat is in the sack'). Good luck!3