So, I like girly girls typically. When my current girlfriend and I started dating she dressed like any other girl. Nothing to sexy or anything, but she looked good and more importantly like a woman.
Now after 10 months of dating she doesn't try at all anymore. She works in a warehouse and wears my t-shirts almost everyday. Which I understand, I could care less what she looks like for work. But when she gets home she will either keep it on or change into a ratty undershirt, and ripped up shorts. And always wears her hair up. To be frank she dresses like a guy most of the time.
She is a beautiful curvy mixed woman, but you would hardly be able to tell with my oversized shirts, and her hair put up all the time. She will dress up, but only if we are going out or if she is going out with her friends.
I'm not asking her to get all dressed up everyday, I just would like her to wear girls clothes, or even her own clothes. I just don't find it sexy.
I told her this once, and she got really upset. Said that she doesn't care that I wear the same jeans all the time. I said, at least I dress like a guy. She didn't like that one, ha. When we talked about it, she had said she could go find a guy who doesn't mind. But then she realized that if she was single again she would dress differently to attract a man, so I think she got my point.
I love my girlfriend. But seeing her in my clothes all the time isn't really a turn on. If she would only just wear her own clothes I wouldn't have a problem. She has complained about our lack of sex lately, but in all honesty she doesn't turn me on like she used to partly because of the way she dresses. When she is girl'd out I can't keep my hands off her.
Am I being an asshole? I get where she is coming from, but I also don't think I am out of line. Not saying I am the best dressed, but I doubt she would like it if I was wearing her skinny jeans everyday. Or if I started wear
Most Helpful Girl
You're not an asshole. You just aren't viewing it from both sides.
From your side, she does a manly job, she has her income, why doesn't she wear her stuff? Why doesn't she try and be girly in her own time?
From her viewpoint, she's constantly tired, she doesn't feel feminine and she wants to feel be comfortable and flump. Your clothes are bigger, she wants to relax and doesn't want to worry about how she looks.
I think you need to suggest date nights. A reason for her to get dressed up. Even if it's a night in with candles, give her that reason to be beautiful. Take her shopping, buy her baggy clothes for herself.
Yeah okay it's a crap situation. But you have the potential to be a very good boyfriend for the (sort of) right reasons. Remind her she's a woman. Treat her like one and she will look like one.4