hello! this is a question for both christians & non-christians so don't hesitate to answer :-) my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year, but he recently broke up with me because he wants to do missions work for a year and doesn't want to hold me back while i'm at school (but i wouldn't feel held back if we stayed together, i only have eyes for him)... he says that right now, he feels that God is testing him by telling him that right now, we are not supposed to be together. he says that he thinks God wants us to focus on our own studies and develop independently, just so that no one is 'influenced' by the other career wise... i want to be a teacher and would be okay working as a teacher on a missions field anywhere in the world, as long as it's with him. i know i sound naive and young, but i really feel like God is telling me that he's the man for me. we're both 19! but he also thinks that just as we're not supposed to be together right now, he feels that it's not the end for us and that we're supposed to come back together once we're both established... as much as i respect this reasoning (i'm a christian too) i'm tempted to just continue seeing him - God hasn't told me that we're not supposed to be together, i've actually been getting opposite messages... i truly feel he's the one!
to be honest, him and i have still been seeing eachother and we broke up a month ago. at first it was casual, like 'friends', but now we're back to what we did when we were dating (like kissing, holding hands, cuddling, telling eachother we love eachother) and i just don't know what to do! i don't want to give up and just let him walk away from this, but at the same time i want to respect what he feels God is telling him. any opinions on what i should do? we dated 2 years and it's hard because he still wants to see eachother as 'friends', but he knows that it's hard to go back to JUST friends... and when i tell him that we can't see eachother at all, he gets very upset. HELP :( i love him!
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Leave it in the Lord's hands, and if it is Meant to be it will be, Trust me. HE will guide you both and be the decision maker, not you nor the One whom you feel is 'Truly the one,' it is God who will decide if you are meant to spend eternity with one another.
You will get signs when you least expect it so just let time and the Lord do His work and His wonders.
Be friends for now, nurse and nurture what you have had for a year and Respect his wishes, this is what he wants and feels is best for now. If you find you cannot do This, then let Go and let God... Follow you in another direction.
Good luck and blessings. xx2