Long story short, we talked for two months and I think he just didn't realize that he was keeping me at an arm's length because he wasn't ready to date yet. I brought it up and he admitted that he really hadn't realized it and didn't know how much time he needed. He wanted to continue talking and liked what we had so far. Two weeks went by, so thinking we were good, I shot him a friendly message. He ignored me. Not willing to participate in this push/pull, I set a boundary after I gave him a few days to respond. I told him that I would not play this push/pull game and offered to work with him because we were a lot alike and I knew he was scared and a good-hearted person like me. I said I would like to see where it could go because there was something between us. I also said if he didn't respond, I would move on, make peace, and wish him the best. He didn't respond. No, "I wish you the best too." Just a complete invalidation of my feelings and caring about him. Why is it so hard for some people to politely part ways when you care about them? It's the silence on his part that hurts the worst. It's not even about the rejection. It's that he didn't even make the effort to say anything when what I said was very loving and kind.
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Sometimes we have expectations that are not real. Yea, it sucks when it is us the ones who received the silent answers - always annoying and sometimes hurtful, depending upon the deepness of our expectations.
As you told the other guys here, your friend had not much talent in dealing with girls. The silence maybe is nothing more than an expression of this lack of talent, not meaning he didn't care about you or something. On the other hand, he might have panicked due to the "pressure" of having to stand a position about the possibility of a relationship with you.1