hey.so I am 20 years old. never even held hands with a guy.never been kissed. never had a boyfriend. I'm really outgoing and fun, I party, drink occasionally, have tons of friends, but I can't seem to find a guy. I don't know if this is normal or not. a few of my friends are in the same boat as me, and believe me, I am pretty attractive-just lost like 10 lbs (was never fat, just wanted to get toned) and everything and I have no idea why I am still single. I've been with guys before obvi and gotten close to having a guy-but no cigar. and it annoys me because I see thousands of people with bfs/gfs everyday and I don't have that. :( I'm in college-have lots of friends there-go to parties meet guys, but they never call me back, and if they do they are the unattractive ones. I don't know if I just have super high standards or what. I mean I'm on my schools dance team, I'm healthy, fit, and outgoing but can't seem to find a guy. help please!?!
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Okay, don't listen to the people telling you to lower your standards and date bearded nasty losers. There are some standards that are sickening, like "My future boyfriend has to be a 6'3" Ken Doll non-ethnic type with old money parents and a summer house in Martha's Vineyard", but asking for a guy who be clean-cut and non-ugly is NOT having too high a standard.
I really can't explain why some attractive people don't do well with the opposite sex. Maybe you're not good at stroking a guy's ego? Some guys just like girls who make them feel like they're the biggest player in the world; that's how some ugly girls get to be popular. If you're attractive and a bit "cool" towards the guys, maybe they think you're stuck-up or unapproachable. Guys either chase girls they think they have a shot with, or they shoot for the moon. They rarely go for a girl with whom they might have a shot with but she seems totally disinterested, if that makes any sense. I'm just trying to explain why so many of the ugly guys seem to try to go for you while the "normal" ones don't.2