If you look it up it looks like we are on a upward trajectory for single mothers. Is this terrible for society or does it not really matter. What do you think contributes to this.
Most Helpful Girl
I'm a single mom. I know that for a while now teens and society in general have become more liberal with their sexuality and a lot of households don't teach their kids and daughters values as much as they did. My parents raised my sheltered and were strict. I met someone at 19 who I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with, and things happened. I think it will affect society if the mother gets on public assistance as this is detrimental to everyone. The best thing is to get a job like I did. I do not count on welfare nor do I look forward to it. I may not be with their dad anymore but they still have positive male role models in their life, my older brother for one, and my dad. I used to be in your shoes, debating about the effects and judging single moms in general. Truth of the matter is that life happens and sometimes things you're not prepared for hit you but it's not the end of the world. Its hard when some of us get abused later or cheated on and we have to go our own way. There are a lot of sociopath men out here who make a career out of fooling and trapping good women. I was very depressed after and realized how hard life was going to be, but it's not. The only limitations are the ones we place on ourselves and with the right attitude and support us and our children can have a great, normal life. Sadly not everyone gets the help or support from family and they let themselves become depressed, oppressed or just give up on their dreams.2
Most Helpful Guy
Oh it matters a lot.
The problem is that we have people who have sex irresponsibly and that people won't use protection and people are learning about sex at younger and younger ages.
The fact that the father's not involved in raising the kid is also a huge factor. The couple has sex when they're not ready, they break up before the baby is born. The guy either disappears or just pays child support and in cases where he wants to be in the child's life, the girl refuses and makes up a buncha BS that the courts buy into.
Another problem is how defensive they get when you point out how irresponsible they are. They'll get mad when guy doesn't accept the fact that it's a dealbreaker and the stuff I'll point out next will probably annoy so many of them.
Many single mothers are actually creating a huge drain on the economy. If you meet many of them, they live off of government assistance. I know one who has social services paying for her daycare, receiving WIC and not even using it, just giving away the food and not giving it to her kids, and she gets mad at the fact that if she makes more money, she gets less food stamps. There are also mothers out there who sell the stuff they get for free with WIC. Think about that. Free day care, free food stamps, free WIC. There's also governeunt funded health insurance. These single mothers end up in a bad spot where they basically are stuck living off the government raising kids in a subpar manner.
So the more single mothers we get, the more we will suffer economically. They struggle to hold a job. When they do land one they constantly need to leave because of a babysitter problem. Their kids are being raised in daycare and not by them because they need to work. Their situation makes it too hard to get a worthwhile position that pays well because they're too obligated to their kids so they're stuck in low income resulting in them going for these gov't programs. It's a real mess.1