It seriously came out of nowhere. We were just randomly texting back and forth this morning like we usually do when he's working and then he sends me a series of 5 text messages telling me this:
Hey. I've been doing a lot of thinking about you and me lately. And I think you are a great girl. You are smart and pretty and funny and you have been great to me these past few months. I just don't feel I am ready to commit to a relationship right now and instead of forcing it and to avoid hurting you worse later and so I think we should take a break for a while cause I really don't want to hurt you any worse. I just don't feel us clicking anymore. I feel awful because its a week before xmas but I feel it would be worse to drag it on till after that and the trip so I'll just give you the $175 back and my parents are going to go instead so I can go away on my work trip. I know this is all of a sudden and I'm really sorry.
-The trip he's talking about was mini vacation we planned over a month ago and booked just last week. We had just bought supplies 2 days ago since the trip is next week. So I have a lot of returning to do. We haven't been fighting or anything. Nothing seemed any different between us. It's devastating and at the same time I don't want to speak or talk to him because it's hurting so much.
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By the way, I can somewhat relate. My boyfriend is terrible at communicating his feelings, and I didn't know where my head at was for months. I've been dating him for 5 months -- just like you two. It still takes me time to deal with many of our early issues because of his bad communication skills. A few weeks ago, I emailed him asking him if he wanted to keep this going only until the end of January, whereupon he could decide whether he likes me as much as I like him. (I e-mail because he's usually suave and deflects issues when he speaks to me in person.) I ended up getting a prolonged e-mail that expressed that he wants something long-term with me, but takes things very slow. I know for a fact that his previous girlfriend left him because she didn't feel he liked her enough.
Ultimately, some people really do need time to mull over things, and I'm glad I stuck with my boyfriend (I certainly had enough reasons not to, at points). However, he never asked for a break.
Now that I think about it, I might actually offer you slightly different advice. If he didn't give you any indication of his lack of surety before, you might WANT to talk to him about why he's being so ballistic... pick his brain, at least. But to me, taking a "break" is as good as "breaking up". :/0
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