So I just recently broke up with my girlfriend that I dated for almost 2 years. She was a great person. Funny, smart, unique, beautiful, and very loving, but she was just so oblivious with relationships that I couldn't handle it anymore. No matter how many times I told her what she was doing wrong, she still did it. I had to carry the entire relationship. It was always me who had to suggest dates and hanging out, and I always initiated conversations over the phone. I know that she was much more in love than I was (that was another big problem), but she didn't show it at times. At other times she was too affectionate to the point of being slightly clingy. she was also too overbearing at times. I HATE pda because I like to look professional (even though I'm still young) and she has no problem with making out in public (it's highschool so it's not as bad as it would be in the store or something), but it was still annoying. Basically she was overall awkward and unbalanced with the relationship (and definitely was lacking in the romance department) so I had to cut it off. I feel bad since she is a great person overall, but she made me feel like I was in some middle school relationship, when I like a more mature relationship. So has anyone had this happen? When they were awesome and attractive as a person, but just too much to bear in a relationship?
Most Helpful Girl
Hell yes I have. Honestly some people are just not mature enough to be in relationships. They can be a great person else wise but many people lack empathy which there for prohibits them from being in a mature relationship. They are unable to think to themselves "How would I like it if this was being done to me" or "If he treated me like that would I be okay with it". That is where the issue comes in. My ex was had been in 5 relationships before me and he was my first. Yet I had to constantly tell him how to follow relationship etiquette. Ex. not liking slutty pictures of other women on social media, or to not walk ahead of me when in a group of people. He lacked major empathy and maturity. These people have a lot of growing up to do as they still live in this "I am entitled to my happiness" or "The world revolves around my needs" mind set. When your in a relationship you should put your partners feelings before yours. Unfortunately a lot of people don't get that.2
Most Helpful Guy
I feel exactly the way you do, except instead of 2 years I dated a girl for 2 months. I really cared about this girl and I knew her for 2 years. I really wanted to date her but some other guy asked her out first and he was a real a-hole. So then I asked her out after they broke up and slowly she stopped showing interest in me and seemed less and less like she wanted to be with me, no matter how hard I tried to make her happy. I told her how I felt and we broke up. Turns out she still loves her S. O. B. ex-bf.0