a legal adult (old enough to be financially independent, move out and make her own life choices) or is it more right for the grown daughter to make her own choices on who she should date, like a mature indepenedent adult?
The way I see it, even though the grown daughter has no legal obligation to listen to her parents anymore, I can somewhat understand why parents tend to be much more lenient on who their grown sons date compared to who their grown daughters date since most of us men (at least in my experience) tend to have common sense to distinguish between who's the right woman that is ladylike/mature and who's the wrong woman that is unladylike/immature and very rude.
Now some men and women tend to be deceiving with their personalities in relationships but women tend to fall for these tricks much more than men based on what I constantly hear all over the media and from people in the real world.
Anyways, do you think parents should still have the right to determine who their grown daughters should and shouldn't date or do you think parents who do this to their daughters are treating them like children and should let their grown daughter decide (like a responsible adult) for themselves on who they want to date?
- Parents have the right over who their grown adult daughter chooses to date, regardless of how old she is.Vote A
- The grown daughter should be able to make her own individual choice as a responsible adult on who she wants to date.Vote B
- Other answers (share in your opinion post).Vote C
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First of all I have to say that middle paragraph about women was unnecessary and incorrect and I'm sure you've already heard plenty about why. Next, my mother's family is highly influential on who I and my cousins date. The individuals in that family have worked hard to create the strong social network that they have and keeping that network is extremely important to those involved. One bad gear can ruin that whole machine so if I date (or worse marry) someone bad for either me or the family I could risk isolating myself and potentially destroying something I rely on quite a bit. So I think that has a lot to do with it. When your family is critical of who you date it's not because they want to be controlling its because they want to maintain and potentially grow what they have. they spent years investing in you and this other person can either help or mutilate all of what they've done. And unlike friends this person has the potential to be permenant through things like kids. So it's a delicate balance between individual freedom and maintaining important complex social structures. People are always amazed at how ridiculously large my mother's family is and how happy/successful everyone is both together and apart. It's all because although we value ourselves we also value the family equally as much and when you know you've got a good thing you try your best not to jeopardize it. In my family the guys actually get a harder time than the girls because we're usually the ones that F up. Plenty of amazing women in the world but few hold up to the standards of the women in my family. I've been single pretty much my whole life. But the only girl I dated was the absolute best girl I could at the time and her Facebook didn't even pass the scrutiny. I mean she was pre-dent, gorgeous, hilarious, sweet and seemed like a perfect ten. Turns out they were right and soon after she ended up on drugs working at various restaurants like hooters, nearly dropping outta school, on medication for depression, with a tattoo of the baby she would've had with a jobless alcoholic guy 10 years older than her that she got pregnant by hours after meeting him, while I ended up with gonorrhea. Sometimes Fam knows best. So a right? No. A reason? Yes.0
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