Say your parents know a great person who they want you to marry (in a semi arranged marriage format). Before describing them there are a couple things that you can assume:
This person will never leave you, or cheat, they are incredibly loyal.
You dont meet this person until 1 week before the wedding
You must agree to marry them just based on their credentials, you have to make the decision before you meet them.
He is tall, very handsome, he has a successful business (, you know he doesn't drink, do drugs, gamble, or sleep around with women, you know he is very loyal, he is a smart guy and family oriented.
She is a very beautiful woman, who is a successful author, and you hear she has a loyal, caring nature, also very family oriented and fairly intelligent.
Based on the descriptions, and knowing they will be loyal would you agree to be set up with a person like this?
- YesVote A
- NoVote B
Most Helpful Girl
Right away... "handsome"? According to who? Someone's parents? Right there is a big red flag because never in my life did my mom or dad suggest I date someone that they had known, whether it was a young guy at the office where my mom worked or a son of a friend of my dad's -- every single guy that my parents thought would be good for me, was only a good son-in-law for THEM.
Bottom line: chemistry. If I didn't get a chance to meet them and committed to marrying them based on superficial reasons then I would be pissed off on the day of the wedding knowing I am probably making a life mistake.
I like to try on the shoes before buying them, so to speak.
I like to see how we interact, and if I find his personality and look agreeable to my standards. And I don't even mean good looking, because all my friends know that I tend to have a very different taste in men compared to other women. The point is, *I* have to find him appealing, not my mom and dad. I also want to know how much we do or don't have in common. I want to have sex, as I think a lot of the va-va-voom part of all relationships is about how you actually *want* each other. If you don't have that or get to experience it, then that's a huge problem, and one that usually leads people to stray against their spouse looking for something better.
So, no, I would not want to be set up like this. I'm with the overwhelming majority that I like to pick my own partner and make up my own mind about what I'm going to like for the rest of my life.0
Most Helpful Guy
From what I know of marriage, you marry someone because you want to spend your entire life with that person. Love isn't about perks.6