My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months, this time. We were off and on years ago but now we decided to be committed to each other. We are both mid 30s and each have a child from a previous relationship. Also, we are long distance (about a 2 hr flight between us). We were both dating other people when we first got back together but we said we would stop and move to the other's city whoever finds a good job first.
However, one of the girls he was dating when we got together, he still keeps very active, public and flirtacious contact with her online. I called him out about it and he didn't see anything wrong with it. Since then, he told me they've bumped into each other a bunch of times. We keep arguing over this same girl and its driving us apart. I don't think he's sleeping with her, I'm pretty sure he's not. However, they constantly 'like' each other's pictures on Instagram as soon as one of them post and today I looked and he posted kissy faces to one of her pics. Previous posts were much worse with them talking about his 'member.' I try to keep in mind that its just online and its silly social media. But they live in the same city. We only visit each other once a month.
I want to confront him and tell him to stop, but he's going to AGAIN accuse me of being a snoop and insecure and jealous and paranoid. Which is valid when we were together before I would go through his phone in front of him. I want to trust him, but there were times in the past when we cheated on the other people we were with to be together. I want him to just stop on his own and not feel like I'm forcing him to do something. Is this something I should ignore until I feel like it goes beyond online, or should I confront him? Also, how do I bring it up without sounding crazy? I feel so immature even bringing this up as an actual issue but it really does bother me. Or should I just walk away, if he cared about me he would have no problem cutting her off, right?
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