I always wonder that myself. I have seen pretty and attractive ladies hang our with not so appealing guys but hey they are with someone they can hang out with. Then viceversa. I know physical features are not the most important thing in a person but that is the first thing you set eyes even for seconds when you meet a person, then as you get to know the person the physical attributes are not that important anymore.
Also some women who lets say you know and have all this bad attitute, personality, but they do date or hang out and you that you are nice and a person who can easily make friends with, you have noone.
So my question is why some ladies have all the luck when you have some features that may be better than others and still you can get a guy to hang out with you.
Do guys like thenb bad, mean ladies? Or what is it that they like.
I consider myself attractive but in the guys department Im the unluckiest girl of all that is why I dont have guys experience in my opinion and as more as I age the more difficult for a woman to find nice guys even for friends.
Most Helpful Guy
Attractive people are often given a lot of slack in personality, because they have the luxury to be able to pick and choose.
Obviously, not everybody attractive is like that.
Could be that you're putting out a vibe that you're reserved or unapproachable.
But I don't think that's the issue here.
Attractiveness is relative.
Meaning that if you're always surrounding yourself with people more attractive, you will always be least likely to be approached.
Same goes for the other way around - if you're the most attractive in your crowd, you're most likely to be approached.
So maybe you need to rethink your strategies for going out to meet people.
This could even mean going out alone. I know... it sounds terrifying, and it is.
But there are other ways to meet people than hanging in a bar.
It's really about putting yourself in new situations to meet new people.
Could be an evening class, or doing a sport or hobby, or whatever.
The object is getting 'out there'.
What you don't want to do, is surround yourself with a large crowd, where many outshine you. And last, you may have to be more active, and run a few risks every now and then... and risk rejection.1
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Most Helpful Girl
I know how you feel.
I think I am quite unapproachable and guys assume I don't want to talk to them. I am too scared to smile and make eye contact in case I give them the wrong idea. Sometimes I have shown zero interest and had the creepiest men latch onto me (older men when I was in my late teens and early twenties and this has made me very closed off as I got older) - I still don't know how to get guys who are interested in me (who I am also interested in) to approach me. Think I will have to start taking chances myself and make it more obvious.
I think if we chilled out a bit and were more open to people and took chances and made random conversation with men we wanted to be friends with then we would make more male friends etc.
Feel free to message me if you want to talk :-)0
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