(First off Im into good smart girls) I've never had a girlfriend, not even close, so I don't know if girls like me. For the physical side I am 6'1" 16 years old. I am lean and pretty muscular. I think I have a good looking face but mainly when my hair is fixed. My hair is dirty blond and normal length for a guy. Now mentally/emotionally I am a very nice guy, respectful, good morals. I am a strong Christian, go to church on Sunday, listen to KLove and stuff. I'm very smart and near the top of my class with a 4.225 cumulative GPA and raising. So I think I'm good looking and nice and stuff. So I know that's a plus. But I know girls are attracted to confidence. That is something I don't have. I've never approached a girl just to talk to her or to get to know her, barely talk to girls really or people in general. I was diagnosed with selective mutism at a young age, but gotten much better. I am still EXTREMELY shy. Sometimes I don't talk to my friends because I'm uncomfortable. People/decent amount of girls at least know who I am. So I have some friends and people that know me. The thing is I just don't ever talk much primarily to girls. I just feel like I'll be bugging them or theyll not like me and laugh on the inside or think Im weird or creepy. I don't ever hang out with my friends outside school except one sometimes, another one rarely. I feel like an annoyance and feel they wouldn't wanna hang out I don't know why. I don't even have my second best friends phone number. So I'm not social or confident, awkward around people and suck at conversation with girls and a lot of guys. But i do open up to most people once i know them. How big of a downfall is this in the dating game? I feel like everything is almost perfect for me except social skills, probably the most important. I just wait for girls to approach me. That never happens and my big crush is shy. Am I a guy you'd be interested in? Be honest I take no offense. And if you respond, what type of girl are you?
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The shyness thing you shouldn't worry about too much. You're still very young so there's every chance you'll gain more confidence as you get older and be able to have friends who are girls which should make it easier talking to girls you like. I'm shy too so I reckon I can relate better to shyer guys, especially introverts (people who need alone time to get their energy, as opposed to extroverts who get energy from hanging out with groups) 'cause I am one myself :') , and I'm way more comfortable one-on-one. Also never having a girlfriend? Dude you're 16; I've never been in a relationship (not one I count anyway..) and I'm nearly 20 :')
For me personally I wouldn't date you because of the age difference and also if you're a really strong Christian I think our worldviews would be too different (not that it isn't cool to be a Christian and everything it's just I'm not and a lot of my beliefs are quite different so I feel like it'd be a barrier)
There will be girls who like you though. I know maybe it seems right now like everyone you know is hooking up and you're left out, but trust me, you're far from being the only one. Hard advice to follow maybe; but you really just need to relax about the idea of having a girlfriend until there's someone you're really into.0