How do you know that you are in love and not just infatuated with someone? I think I love my best friend but I have heard so many things that it might just be infatuation how do you tell the difference?
Most Helpful Guy
Infatuation is an emotion and is more selfish than love. You may or may not take action when infatuated, but it is all about your happiness, and feelings as oppose to what the other person feels or wants. If you do something for them just so they will like you, that is about your happiness and therefore is because of infatuation, and is not love.
Love is a commitment to sacrifice, and is always expressed as action. That action can be giving time, money, or effort, but there is always a sacrifice on your part. Much like how a parent must make sacrifices for their children because of love, with no hope of reward in return. You can not love without an action. You can't love someone and then stand by and do nothing when they need your help. Action is how love is always expressed.
It feels good be be infatuated, but it feels good to be loved. Actually being in love often just feels like work in an thankful job, again much like how parents sometimes feel.4
Most Helpful Girl
When you're infatuated with someone, you just see an idealized version of them. You don't see the ugly parts. And what infatuation boils down to is selfish love. Let's say you're infatuated with someone who doesn't like you back. It'll hurt pretty bad but more than anything your ego will be hurt whether or not you are aware of it consciously. You don't want to see them with anyone else. That would drive you mad. But after all is said and done you aren't up all night hoping that they're doing well, thinking if that dispute they had with their mother is over, wondering if that rash on their back went away...
Because you didn't love them. When you love someone you know their ugly parts and you love them regardless. You see who they really are. Your love isn't selfish. Even if they're dating someone else you're concerned with their happiness. Even if you've gone weeks without talking to them you are still worried about their welfare. You would do anything for them. And you know that a piece of you is going to love them forever.2