As stupid as the title may seem... I actually mean it. My Boyfriend and I have been together for years. Yet, I know that I won't be able to sleep with him till we get married. Yet, I feel bad for doing this to him. I feel like he needs to sleep with someone meanwhile. I love him but i'm not a monster to completely be holding him down without having any type of sexual contact with anyone for over 8+ years. Lately, i've noticed this girl who is known for being a "Slut" and I feel like just letting him sleep with her and leave it at that. It would be like a one time thing with her and then he'd come back. It doesn't have to be her exactly but any girl. Maybe like a one night thing with a girl at a club I don't know. Does this song like a good idea?
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I believe that under no circumstances is it alright to cheat on your partner, even if they are alright with it. It's really nice that you want to hold up your moral standards and care about him to not want to torture him they way you feel you are, but the truth is, if he's dating you and you don't want to have sex, that's something he's going to need to level with on his own. Letting him cheat on you, I promise, will blow up in your face. Maybe not even right away, but eventually things are going to turn sour and you're going to wonder where things went wrong. There is a moral code among people that you don't sleep around if you are in love with, and when you break it, there is literally a psychological break from the person you think you're in love with. There's also the double standard. (speaking speculatively) Is he alright with you having a one night stand on him? Maybe he is, maybe he isn't. It would still be traumatizing to him. And even if you are really that much of a 'helpful' girlfriend, it's going to traumatize you. I can see from your point of view why you're thinking this way, but the only thing you're really doing wrong is proposing the wrong messed up idea rather than the logical one: get married. If you've been with him for 8 years, hell, if you've been together for 3 and you still want to be with them, you should have thought about marriage a lot time ago. If you don't want to marry him, then you need to move on so you don't compromise both your morals. And maybe you don't see it as breaking morals, but guarantee your subconscious won't let it go. We aren't coded to cheat well, that's why it always ends poorly. I did a search on the internet before writing this and there are a lot of people who thing what you're suggesting is perfectly alright. But looking at these people and why they think it's alright, most of them are on a third marriage or can't hold any stable relationship. Don't be them. You have the guy that you've grown with for 8 years. Stop torturing him, but in the correct way and just marry him.1