I am told that "women date down" if they want the relationship to be a success. Equal or greater value (looks & personality for men ... looks only for women) relationships end with the man leaving for a better looking woman.
So how far down should a woman aim? I'm not just talking superficial attributes in men, its like any good quality in a guy means he's worthy of a better looking female.
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I've actually never heard this advice before... Kinda interesting, if a bit doom-and-gloom: "Aim for lower-quality guys, because higher-quality guys will eventually reveal that they're lower-quality guys anyway."
Your assumption seems to be that any guy will always jump ship the moment an available hotter woman shows up.
Looks are certainly what initially attract men. But it's personality and overall compatibility that keep a guy around. A woman's attractiveness will remain important to a guy until the day he dies, but once hooked, other factors increasingly start to matter. Factors that emerge from who you are, and how you two get along together, rather than just the initial factor of you being a generic "hot babe" who can still be ranked against other, potentially hotter babes.
Once these "you factors" have a chance to build up, collectively they are what becomes the bond that's holding you together, and your visual appeal winds up being just one strand of the cable. If a guy leaves just because somebody higher up on the hot-babe scale shows an interest in him, that implies that these other factors, these other diverse strands of the cable, have never really built up between you two. Every bond starts off shallow, but building it up strand by strand into something more robust is the whole basis of a relationship, as opposed to a hook-up.
I'd suggest rather than settling for a guy you don't so much want, in the hopes that nobody else will want him enough to offer him a better "hot-babe strand" than yours, instead find a guy you actually want and who seems to have potential for more, use your hot-babe strand (as it were) to connect with him, then consistently try focusing on strengthening and diversifying the strands of the bond between you.0
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